in the quest to maintain a happy relationship, women sometimes tend to go out of their way to please their partner. Although their intent is often good, going as far as sacrificing your happiness in the name of love can come back to haunt the balance of your relationship.
You want to be perceived as an equal to your partner, which doesn’t mean mothering him or pampering him all the time.
However, helping him or ‘being there’ during his hour of need is necessary, which is different from wrecking the relationship by going overboard in doing so.
Here are 6 things you should avoid overdoing for you man:
Quit trying to solve all his problems
Whether your man has financial woes or workplace issues, avoid trying to rescue him from all his troubles. Listening, guiding, and being a helping hand are all okay to some extent, but going all out and extending your hand can make your man indecisive and helpless to take on responsibility in the future.
Showering him with expensive gifts all the time
It’s better to gift each other gifts of equal value in a relationship. Gifting you man more expensive gifts than he can afford to gift back to you might end up making him feel awkward and bad about himself even. What’s worse is that an immoral person can use you for what he wants in such a situation.
Avoid being a shoulder for him to cry at will
Men don’t fall in love or respect women who only feel sorry for them and become a shoulder for them to cry on. The fact that your relationship is deep and fulfilling only because you are unconditionally there for him emotionally and spiritually is a misnomer.
The real secret of happiness in a relationship lies in supporting and inspiring your husband to reach greater heights.
Trying to be right all the time
Even if you’re right most of the time, the phrase “what did I tell you?” comes off as a derogatory statement. It’s almost like you’re telling your man that you that you are in fact always right. This is a deal breaker in the long run as your man too needs to feel significant and have his say in the relationship.
Asserting this kind of dominance will only destroy and not build your relationship.
Sacrificing your personal life and career
Finding the love of your life doesn’t mean you need to sacrifice your friends and your career. If you sacrifice your hobbies, personal pleasures, and your profession to take care of your family, don’t be surprised if your man were to lose interest in you and the relationship at some point. The more varied your life, the more you’re likely to be appreciated. Make sure you don’t overdo any extreme, though.
Aim to look nice, but not dramatically so
It’s normal to want to look nice for the man you love. But a man who asks you to change how you look dramatically is not worth investing your time in. On the contrary agreeing on something that’s easy and not drastic will only do strengthen your relationship. So don’t deny your man a humble request or two.